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Welcome and thank you, Officer Culianos! Stay safe!

Welcome and thank you, Officer Culianos! Stay safe!Join us in welcoming Officer Anthony Culianos to Nanuet! Officer Culianos is the new School Resource Officer (SRO) at A. MacArthur Barr Middle School. He has been with the Clarkstown Police Department since 2014 and is now part of the #NUFSD family! #newtonanuet ... See MoreSee Less

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Thanks prayers stay safe and well in Jesus name

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Congratulations Lord PLZ keep him safe in this cruel world💙🫡🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💙💙💙🫡🙏🙏🙏🙏

Welcome,be safe

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Thank you from a Breast Cancer survivor...God survivor...God Bless you all......

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Hello and thank you, K-9 Vita! Stay safe!

Hello and thank you, K-9 Vita! Stay safe!We are excited to introduce our newest partner in crime-fighting: Meet K-9 "Vita" from the Czech Republic, who specializes in drug detection. Let's give her a warm welcome! #toledopolice ... See MoreSee Less

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Hi there Gorgeous ! Stay Safe and watch over Your Partner / Handler.🐶🖤💙🖤💙

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This is so precious!!!!
Stay safe, K9 Jocko! and K9 Officer Prichard!

This is so precious!!!!
Stay safe, K9 Jocko! and K9 Officer Prichard!🐾👮‍♂️ Exciting Adventures with K9 Jocko! 📝💪

Check out this pawsome pic of K9 Officer Prichard with our incredible K9 Jocko! 🐶⚡️ This dynamic duo just proved that Jocko is more than just an amazing apprehension and narcotics detection K9, he's also an emotional support pup for his handler! 🥰

In this photo, you can see K9 Officer Prichard holding Jocko's paw while typing up a police report. Jocko knows that writing reports can be tough, so he's right there by his handler's side, providing that much-needed support. Talk about teamwork! 👏🙌

We're incredibly grateful to have such a talented and caring K9 like Jocko on our force. He's always ready to lend a helping paw and make a positive impact in our community. Together, K9 Jocko and Officer Prichard continue to keep our streets safe and bring smiles to our faces. Good boy, Jocko! 🐾💙

#k9handler #k9jocko #teamworkmakesthedreamwork #emotionalsupportpup #plainfieldpd #havingfun
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Beautiful Thank You

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What a beautiful picture of a very special moment! Congratulations and thank you both!! Stay safe!

What a beautiful picture of a very special moment! Congratulations and thank you both!! Stay safe!From the New Port Richey Police Department. Like father, like daughter! Officer Negersmith is following the footsteps of her dad, who has spent his entire career in law enforcement. An affinity for policing seems to run in the family. ... See MoreSee Less

2 days ago

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Thanks prayers stay safe and well in Jesus name

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Awesome stat safe 💙

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Be safe and thank you 🙏🙏🙏

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Thank you, #Hero!

Thank you, #Hero!Night side Officer Roman was happy to reunite an important family member with their family tonight ... See MoreSee Less

2 days ago

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Good Bless you

Congratulations!

Congratulations!Congratulations to the South Suburban Association Chiefs of Police 2023-2024 Executive Board Members! #NOBLEProud ... See MoreSee Less

2 days ago
Congratulations! Thank you! Stay safe!

Congratulations! Thank you! Stay safe!Last year these three chose to fill out an application and toss their name into our candidate pool. Jump forward to today, they have completed their Field Training Program and start solo patrol, serving our awesome community. Congratulations to Officer Talg, Officer Frick and Officer Shoemaker. Thank you for choosing #Wausau! ... See MoreSee Less

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Welcome and thank you, K9 Batman and Officer Dillard! Stay safe!

Welcome and thank you, K9 Batman and Officer Dillard! Stay safe!Meet K9 Batman! K9 Batman is a German Shepard mix and is approximately 2 years old. His handler is Officer Dillard and he is one of our new Greene County Jail K9s.

K9 Batman is also featured on our newest Greene County Jail K9 Swag! This apparel can be purchased from The CrackerJack Shack using the link below!

www.crackerjackshack.com/gcsok9

This is a pre-sale. Orders will be produced and shipped after the selling period ends. A portion of every sale goes to the Greene County Sheriff’s Office K9 Unit.
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Ty

Looking Good. Now, Go get the Bad Guys and find all those Drugs.

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2 days ago

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Welcome! Congratulations on your new job! Stay safe!

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Awesome duo 💙

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Rest in Peace, K-9 Rico. Thank you for your service, #Hero 
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Rest in Peace, K-9 Rico. Thank you for your service, #Hero
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2 days ago

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So very sorry for ur loss💔may he rest in eternal peace over the rainbow bridge🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💔💔💔

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Thank you for your service. Rest in peace.

RIP Rico

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2 days ago
Congratulations! Thank you! Stay safe!

Congratulations! Thank you! Stay safe!The Lovington Police Department would like to extend a warm welcome and introduce Officer Berenice Vega to our community.

Officer Vega was born in Jerecuaro Guanajuato, Mexico and came to the United States when she was 9 years old. Officer Vega graduated from Lovington High School in 2017 and was granted citizenship in 2018. Officer Vega will begin our Field Training Program and attend the Southeastern New Mexico Law Enforcement Academy at a later date.

We are delighted to have Officer Vega join our ranks at the Lovington Police Department!
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5 days ago

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Thank you Sir for your service to your community..... Enjoy your retirement... God Bless you and your family.....

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Thank you, SRO, Private Chestnut! Stay safe!

Thank you, SRO, Private Chestnut! Stay safe!Congratulations to our newly promoted School Resource Officer, Private Chestnut. Thank you for keeping us safe and mentoring our students. We appreciate you!
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6 days ago

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Salute and Honor

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Thanks prayers stay safe and well in Jesus name

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Congratulations lord keep her n r kids safe in this cruel world🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💙🫡🫡🫡🫡💙💙

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Way to go, K9 Freddie!! Thank you!

Way to go, K9 Freddie!! Thank you!🎵"Another One Bites the Dust," 🎶by Freddie Mercury. Dog of the month, Madison, WI Police K9 Freddie is still in his rookie year. Of course the old veterans can be counted on...but with a new pup (and a new handler!), there is always a bit of doubt until they prove themselves in the field.
On K9 Freddie's first search warrant assignment - his SECOND call ever in his young career - he was asked to bring his nose to search a house & garage.
He immediately indicated on an old can of paint in a very messy garage. Officers were skeptical; the weight of the can didn't seem to match his response. But, "Trust Your Dog" is a maxim to live by. When they opened the can, they found a kilo of cocaine, wrapped tightly in plastic bags!
Hiding drugs in old paint cans is intended to mask the smell of the drug. Ha! Rookie Freddie was not fooled for a second. Home run first time at bat. Welcome to the team Freddie!

Madison Police Department Keeping K-9s in Kevlar #k9freddie #freddiemercury #whatanose #rookieyear #anotheronebitesthedust #berbeewalsh #trainhardworkhard #fieldtested #passedthetest #teammember
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6 days ago

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Beautiful dog

job well done Freddie....stay safe and long prormising life for you and your partner

Great job,K-9 Freddie! ❤️❤️

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The ICE Man

Before I tell you about my super hero friend the ICE man, let me assure you that he has nothing to do with the movie Top Gun.

My friend actually obtained his name and his super hero abilities when he came up with a formula for dealing with the poorly behaved, bad intentioned people and the unintended or difficult circumstances he experiences in his life.  The ICE part of his name is actually an acronym for the choices he has when he has an encounter with any of these people or has trouble on his hands.

He figured out that when he does, he can either Ignore, Confront, or Embrace the person or the situation in question.

He can choose one, two, or all of these options, but any decision he makes when dealing with these obstacles or challenges will involve these actions. He may start in one direction and then move to another as the situation evolves.  He may choose a course and resolve the matter immediately upon doing so.  It may be a long and drawn out course of action that involves all three of these choices, but no matter what he decides, it will be a choice within the boundary of these three alternatives.

The ICE Man is similar to my other super hero friends in that he has devised a simple process for mastering fears or handling unpleasant or unforeseen situations.  Where he differs is that his skills apply to external factors, whereas my other super hero friends all confront fears and obstacles that come from within.  His skill set often involves an interaction with someone and that alone makes his problem solving a bit more complex.

Working with other people can be difficult and challenging, especially if these other people behave in a way that has a negative impact on you.  When you were growing up, there was undoubtedly a kid or kids who didn’t want to follow the rules, didn’t want to listen to the teacher, or was otherwise trying to get away with something.  Worse yet, there may have been a kid who took to bullying you or tried other ways to intimidate you and make your life miserable.

The power of negative actions has always been stronger than the power of positive actions when matched up one on one.  Further, you will always be at a slight disadvantage as someone who follows the rules and is respectful of others when having to contend with someone who acts as though the rules do not apply to him.

As an adult, you are likely surrounded by the adult version of the poorly behaved children just described.  From the erratic driver who seems to think nothing of cutting you off on the expressway, to the slack at work who tries to get by doing as little as possible leaving you to carry their weight in addition to your own.

No matter where you are in life or what your chosen profession is, these people are present doing what they can to be underhanded, act unfairly, and generally get away with whatever they can while ignoring the rules.

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can devise a plan to permanently avoid these people and don’t let yourself think that because you might have successfully separated yourself from one of these people there won’t be another one waiting to wreak the same amount of havoc and cause the same amount of angst in your life.

The ICE Man had too many of these unsatisfactory experiences for too long of a period of time and he finally determined that he needed to do something about it.  So, instead of just telling himself it would all be better tomorrow, he decided to make a list of his options.  To his surprise, after much thought and deliberation, he realized that there were really only three choices for him to make when a poorly behaved person or difficult experience presented itself.

He was actually comforted by the fact that he could only come up with three, in part because it simplified his thought process and made his task of setting a course to effectively handle these matters easier to comprehend.

Ignoring a badly behaved person can be advantageous because it sends the message that the poor behavior is not going to have any influence on you.  This is a particularly powerful message when you consider that the motivation for most poorly behaved people is to cause turmoil and discomfort for well-behaved people.

Generally speaking, poorly behaved people and especially poorly behaved children, behave in that way because they are trying to get attention and any attention is better than no attention.  Gaining attention is the avenue they use to get what they want.  I want candy and my parents won’t let me have it so I am going to throw a fit until they give in.  Or, I am hungry, but I don’t have a lunch so I am going to bully you until you give me your lunch money.

If you are successful at ignoring these people and this type of behavior, the avenue that they use to get what they want from you is closed.  Even poorly behaved kids and adults will realize that they need to go elsewhere to achieve their desired result if they are continually unsuccessful in getting it through you.

These small steps or adjustments are exactly the moves that you need to make on your path of self- improvement.  Rarely is their one thing that you can do that instantaneously erases your fears, doubts, or worries, but if you take the time to understand the root cause of those fears and worries and then identify steps that you can take to address them, you will eventually push past them and they will no longer present themselves as the obstacles they have previously been to you.

Sometimes, despite your best efforts, simply ignoring someone, or your fears concerning them, will not make them go away and you must consider confronting him or her in order to mitigate or alleviate the problem they are creating with you.  You likely do not enjoy or seek out confrontation.  You may even try to avoid it all costs, but if you are completely unwilling to confront anyone or anything at any time, you must also recognize that you are sacrificing your long-term peace just so you do not need to take even a slight step outside of your comfort zone.

The ICE Man looked at issues that probably could have been short lived and he found that many of them ended up creating uneasiness and angst for him over a prolonged period of time.  When he let situations or problems go unchecked, they festered and ended up being much more of an issue as time progressed.

He realized that he wasn’t doing himself any favors by choosing not to deal with situations as they arose in a direct and forthright manner.  He eventually found that, sometimes, just by dealing with something immediately, he was actually able to minimize the confrontation that was necessary to solve the problem.

Often times, a swift and decisive confrontation will settle a matter or shut down a behavior once and for all and that is something that even a dedicated pacifist must consider.  This is not to suggest that you turn toward physical confrontation.  Many times, your willingness to address poor behavior through your use of sound logic and reason will take care of the matter.

However remote the possibility may seem, some people are simply unaware of how they are coming across to you and once you let them know what impact their behavior is having on you, they either adjust their approach or go elsewhere.

Confrontation can also involve the use of an authority figure or a trusted third party.  A productive meeting conducted by an effective mediator can go a long way toward resolving these situations.

The main point here is that an effective confrontation, conducted responsibly and with pure intent, can create an undesired consequence for the poorly behaved person.  Most bad behavior exists precisely because it has gone unchecked.  Once an undesired or unexpected consequence for that action is created, the poor behavior is likely to go away or at least go elsewhere.

The ICE Man certainly learned this first hand and he now counts his willingness to consider confronting a person or an issue that is causing him grief and aggravation as one of his three viable choices for effective resolution.

Just as confronting a matter can lead to a desired result, so too can the opposite action.  Embracing a problem or a particular individual who has previously created difficulties for you can work just as well.

Embracing a person or problem is obviously different than confronting one from the standpoint that you are considering the possibility that there may be some common ground between you and that person or problem.

In a confrontation, your desire is to make the bad behavior change or go away.  When you embrace someone or something, your desire is to develop a better understanding of what is being said or acted out with the possibility that the common ground you develop will help to resolve the problem.

Sometimes, your own anxiety can mask something that is valuable to the decision-making process.  You may get yourself so worked up about a problem you are having with someone that you will miss a clue that could very well lead to a viable solution to that same problem.  That clue may be found in the form of a common thread that you did not realize existed between you and your supposed nemesis.

The ICE Man discovered that if he were at least willing to consider that he might have something in common with someone who had otherwise caused him trouble, the situation may not be as dire as he originally thought.

Have you ever taken part in an argument with someone only to realize that you were actually making the same point, but you had somehow started off on the wrong foot and gotten so upset that you focused solely on making yourself heard instead of also listening to what the other person was saying?  It happens.  It tends to happen more frequently to people who have opinions and are passionate about certain causes and beliefs.

The idea of possibly embracing someone or something that has been troublesome to you takes some work, but it does open up another choice for you.  Another choice leads to another possible and positive consequence and that consequence may be just what you need to effectively resolve a troubling matter.

If the embrace of the problem person or matter leads immediately to a resolution, it is all the better.  You effectively resolved a situation and found common ground with someone or something that was previously a nemesis to you.  In many ways, this is the strongest resolution you can reach because you have taken an enemy and made them an ally.

While it is difficult to get to that point, especially because that type of resolution often involves the actions and willingness of someone else over whom you have no control, there is no better way to eliminate a problem than to take it from the negative column and put it squarely in the positive side of your experiences and learning moments.

The ICE Man also found that if he first chose to go the route of embracing a troubling person or issue, he still maintained the option of confrontation and that option would become even more powerful if he chose it as a second course of action.  If he chose confrontation at that point, he had the benefit of knowing that he had at first tried to accept what was happening.  Sometimes, that knowledge strengthened his resolve and made it easier for him to take that step.

The next time (probably later today) you run across a person or a situation that is bothersome or troubling to you, remember the options that the ICE Man identified that ultimately led to his super hero powers.  You can choose to either Ignore, Confront, or Embrace.  When you do, you will be effectively taking action and working toward a much more desirable result.

Scott Arney
Chief Executive Officer
Chicago Patrolmen’s Federal Credit Union

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