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NEW EPISODE: Pre-Approval Costs

The Mortgage Beat is live with an all-new episode featuring John Aretos, CEO, Police Mortgage, created For First Responders Who Are Second to None!

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NEW EPISODE: Pre-Approval Costs

The Mortgage Beat is live with an all-new episode featuring John Aretos, CEO, Police Mortgage, created For First Responders Who Are Second to None!

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We will Never Forget.Today we remember and honor Everett Police Department Officer, Dan Rocha. Officer Rocha lost his life in the line of duty on this day in 2022. Gone but not forgotten. ... See MoreSee Less

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Congratulations!! Stay safe!Help us congratulate Officer Gualbert Button, our newest TMPA member at the Kennedale Police Department! 🚔 Sworn in Friday among family, friends, and peers, his journey from the Philippines, academic achievements, and previous police service set the stage for his new role.

Again, congratulations brother, we are eager to see you succeed! #TMPAFamily #KennedalePD
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Thank you for your service, K9 Drago!
Congratulations, Sgt. Jorge! Stay safe!Drago will spend his retirement days at Sgt. Jorge's home enjoying family and fun times. K9 Drago has retired from the Essex County Sheriff's Department after serving since 2018. His partner K9 Sgt. Leonardo Jorge has been promoted to their Investigations Unit.
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Welcome and thank you! Stay safe!The Lincoln Township Police Department would like to take this opportunity to welcome Officer Brock Emery to the department. Officer Emery is a local resident and is a graduate of Lakeshore Public Schools. Officer Emery attended Kalamazoo Valley Community College and then Madonna University. After college, Officer Emery enlisted in the Army. During his time in the Army, Officer Emery was involved in the Presidential Escort Detail and the Caisson Platoon. Officer Emery is married and currently lives here in Lincoln Township. Welcome Officer Emery. ... See MoreSee Less

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Welcome and thank you! Stay safe!We are so excited to welcome the inaugural Members of
The Ennis Police Department Detention Facility!

Detention Officer Jonathan Villagran, Detention Officer Christopher Stroud, Detention Officer Dillon Oates,
Detention Officer Angelica Estrada, Detention Supervisor David Dodd

We look forward to a long, prosperous, and successful journey as our department continues to grow and become a premier Law Enforcement Agency in Ellis County.

Congratulations on joining our community.

Service, Honor, and Vigilance.
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NEW EPISODE: The Unpredictability of 2024

The Mortgage Beat is live with an all-new episode featuring John Aretos, CEO, Police Mortgage, created For First Responders Who Are Second to None!

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The Mortgage Beat is live with an all-new episode featuring John Aretos, CEO, Police Mortgage, created For First Responders Who Are Second to None!

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#HeroWell done Brother. Lieutenant Pablo Cruz has retired from the Ohio State Highway Patrol after 28 years of service.
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Thank you for 24 years of service! All the best in our success in your next endeavors.Congratulations!

After 24 years of dedicated service to the City of Rolling Meadows Officer Steve Whetstone retired today. Throughout Officer Whetstone’s career with the Rolling Meadows Police Department he served as a Field Training Officer, Major Case Assistance Team Traffic Crash Investigator, Motorcycle Officer, and our very first K9 Officer, and most importantly a friend to us all.

Officer Whetstone also has numerous awards to include the lifesaving award.

Officer Whetstone will be greatly missed by the department and we wish him well on the next chapter of his life. Congratulations to Officer Stephen Whetstone #209 on 24 years of dedicated service to the city!

Please help us congratulate Officer Whetstone on his retirement!

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Be True to You

Questions, always so many questions. The questions that are on my mind today revolve around the importance of being yourself and how much of yourself you should make known to those who are counting on you to be there for them.

You have undoubtedly been advised to be yourself or to be true to yourself on multiple occasions throughout your life. Generally good advice to follow, but often also used as a panacea for all situations even though there may very well be valid reasons for you to conceal at least a part of who you are and what you might be thinking.

Being yourself isn’t as easy as it may sound, especially if you are in a position of leadership. One reason is that when you allow people to see you for who you really are, you put yourself in a vulnerable position. When you reveal personal thoughts and share your experiences, you run the risk of being subject to additional criticism and disappointment, and of not living up to vaulted expectations or inflated opinions.

With these thoughts in mind, when you are in a situation where people are counting on you for insight, advice, and guidance; are you more credible if you reveal less of your personal nature and maintain more of the perception of your strength as a decision maker? I think it depends on how you can best relate to those people.

A big part of effective leadership, perhaps THE biggest, is that leader’s ability to relate to those he or she is called upon to lead. Relatability underscores every other action you take as a leader.

When you communicate, your message must be understood by and applicable to your audience if you are going to achieve the objective you set when you drafted your message. When you make a decision that impacts your team, you must be able to demonstrate that your decision incorporates their best interest. When it is time to listen, which is most of the time, you must be able to take action and/or respond in a way that lets your employee or team member know that you understood what they were telling you.

What about when it comes to parenting? While there isn’t a business aspect to parenting, at least as it is defined in the traditional sense; relatability is still a core issue if you are going to be effective in your parental role. What is the best way to relate to your children? Are you more effective as the authority figure who creates distinct boundaries and consequences for actions that overstep those boundaries?

Relatability is key. How you best achieve it is the question. Do you emphasize the business and professional aspects of your experiences or the personal aspects of your decision making to illustrate that relatability?

In order to be relatable, you must first be able to effectively evaluate the needs of the people you need to relate to. Does this sound counterintuitive to you, if the theme is to be true to yourself? Let’s see if we can tie it all together.

Everyone has their own perception of what a leader means to them and what it takes to be considered one. Your job, in your vocation or at home, is to figure out what your team or your child requires and then to provide them with exactly that in a way that is true to who you are and what you are capable of. Your job is not to be the leader they think you are or to live up to whatever perception your team or children have of you, even if you deflate a few opinions in the process.

I believe that most of us want to relate. We want to share experiences with others and develop meaningful relationships, but sometimes concerns over how we should act, what we should say, and what other people are going to think get in the way of those experiences being shared and those relationships developing to the fullest extent possible.

Being yourself does not mean that you must go around sharing every personal thought you’ve had, or every embarrassing moment you’ve experienced, or every secret you keep. It means being comfortable enough with who you are and understanding what your team, or your friends, or your children need from you and then being true enough to do what needs to be done or say what needs to be said.

Even if you are not naturally a funny person, your true self can deliver a funny line if your ability to relate to someone is counting on it and you don’t spend time trying to guess if it will be funny enough or as funny as what someone else who is more humorous might have said.

Even if you don’t consider yourself a strict parent, your true self can ensure that a consequence is in place to help govern the actions of your children.

If you are generally a rule follower, your true self can help you identify what rule might be okay to bend if the situation calls for it.

If you tend not to take the world too seriously, your true self can also give you the courage to be very serious and direct if someone you care about needs your undivided attention.

The point is that we are not built as absolutes. None of us are absolutely one way, or the other, every minute of our lives. We are flawed. We sometimes contradict ourselves. We are emotional. We can have the best intentions and get misled. We sometimes do the right thing for the wrong reason and the wrong thing for the right reason.

For all these reasons, we want to relate to each other. We want to understand others and what makes them tick. We want to know that we are not alone. We want to be reassured and comforted.

When relating to others becomes the focus, you see yourself in others and you allow your true self to take over. When you take the time to understand what your co-worker, your child, or your neighbor needs from you; your true self is capable of taking over and delivering in the clutch.

If you are a leader and/or a parent, your desire to relate is a mirror reflection of what your team member or child is seeking from you. By being who you are, you are giving them what they need.

Being someone else or constantly trying to live up to other people’s perceptions of who you are is exhausting and it does not work in the long run. The only way to truly be unique in this world is to be you and then to allow that to be the case no matter what without exception.

Be vulnerable. Be caring. Be humane. Be intense. Be engaged.

Relate and be true to you.

Scott Arney
Chief Executive Officer
Chicago Patrolmen’s Federal Credit Union

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